Overall, I’m an angry person.  To those who know me, yes, I know it’s a shock.  I’ll give you a moment to collect yourself.

I’m angry about a lot of things: past traumas, deaths, my mental illnesses, the continued character assassination of Tony Stark in the comic universe, people who invalidate other people’s feelings.  And I’m not alone.  Anger is probably one of the most common, and sometimes the easiest, emotional responses to a lot of the world’s bullshit.  When it comes to abuse survivors, I argue it’s one of the healthiest ones because it indicates that a) the person is a physical space safe enough to feel that they can express the anger, and b) that they have some level of belief, when the anger is directed at their abuser(s), in their own basic self-worth.  You don’t get angry if you feel like you deserved what you got or that it ‘doesn’t matter,’ right?

But anger isn’t for everyone, and that’s a good thing!  Gods know we need people who are merciful, who are understanding, to keep the rest of us from completely losing our shit.  A community  of warriors isn’t going to last long if it doesn’t have its healers and farmers and creators and basically everyone else.  It’s everyone else that give warriors something to fight for in the first place.

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